Is that I pay cold cash when I go (I've since quit the crazy one) and basically have to figure out everything myself. I suppose that's the point of being 40licious, you already know the right answers, but you basically have the economic power to have them verified by someone else.
But maybe the most disappointing thing that that you still have to figure everything out. Yourself.
I guess I skipped over the part where I get to be the housewife, to raise the kids, to have someone else shell it all out for me, to "dabble" in things, to speak in "we" instead of "I."
I guess I've groomed myself to take care of myself. Which is better than the alternative.